Breaking the Silence on Drinking - How Stigma Keeps Us from Seeking Help
In many cultures, alcohol consumption is a social norm, a rite of passage, or a means of celebration. However, within the Asian American and Pacific Islander (AAPI) community, discussions about drinking habits and potential misuse are often shrouded in silence. This hesitation is deeply rooted in cultural stigma, which can prevent individuals from seeking the help they need.
Cultural Expectations and Shame
Many AAPI cultures place a high value on family honor, respect, and societal standing. Addiction or problem drinking is often perceived as a failure, not just of the individual but of the entire family. This cultural expectation leads many to suffer in silence rather than risk being judged or bringing perceived shame upon their family.
This can be particularly isolating for those struggling with alcohol use. Instead of being met with understanding, individuals may hear dismissive responses like:
"Just have more self-control."
"It’s just a phase."
"Drinking isn’t a problem unless you’re completely out of control."
These responses reinforce the idea that discussing substance use is taboo, making it even harder to seek support.
Underutilization of Mental Health Services
Despite experiencing mental health issues at rates comparable to other racial groups, AAPIs are the least likely demographic to seek mental health or substance use treatment. Studies show that AAPI individuals with alcohol use disorder (AUD) are 50% less likely than white individuals to seek professional help.
Why? Some of the biggest barriers include:
Low Perceived Need: Many individuals don’t recognize the severity of their drinking or believe they should handle it alone.
Structural Barriers: Lack of culturally competent therapists, high costs, and language barriers prevent many from accessing care.
Fear of Stigma: Being labeled as having a "problem" can lead to feelings of failure or exclusion from the community.
The “Model Minority” Myth and Its Impact on Drinking
The model minority stereotype portrays AAPI individuals as highly successful, hard-working, and immune to struggles that affect other communities. This myth makes it even harder to acknowledge personal challenges, including unhealthy drinking habits.
For some, drinking becomes a way to cope with pressure, stress, and isolation—whether in social settings, professional environments, or family expectations. But because of the model minority narrative, admitting to difficulties with alcohol use can feel like a personal failing rather than a normal challenge that can be addressed with support.
How We Can Break the Silence
The first step in addressing problem drinking within the AAPI community is to normalize conversations around alcohol use and recovery. Here’s how we can do that:
Recognize that alcohol struggles exist in our community. Acknowledging that AAPI individuals also face substance use issues is the first step in reducing stigma.
Challenge the idea that asking for help is weak. Seeking support is a sign of strength, not failure.
Encourage judgment-free conversations. Whether with friends, family, or mentors, creating spaces where people feel safe discussing their experiences can make all the difference.
Provide culturally relevant support. Finding mentors or professionals who understand AAPI cultural expectations can make the recovery journey less isolating.
You’re Not Alone
If you’ve ever questioned your drinking but felt hesitant to talk about it, know that you’re not alone. There is no shame in exploring your relationship with alcohol, and support is available—without labels, without judgment.
Want to talk to someone who understands? Talk to a Mentor